Chemistry not dating
I'd heard similar complaints from friends: potential dates who texted too much, too little; used too many emojis, didn’t seem to understand emojis at all; were too serious, used to many “lols” when they clearly were not .Each text was carefully analyzed for hidden meaning.
is married with twins.” Well, I sent Priscilla into Love Mentoring with an expert dating coach and we’ll catch up with her later on.It’s no wonder, then, that text message miscommunications were a daily source of stress and anxiety.It was yet another box to check as we sought a significant other: textual chemistry.As a professional matchmaker and dating coach, I would love to have a twenty dollar bill for each time my female client has given me this post-date feedback.I am particularly interested in this subject, as I’ve seen so many situations where I really do see a good possibility for two people—they meet each other’s Top Five Critical Criteria—and yet one or the other dismisses this other person (this person who’s hot to trot for another date) because the illusive “chemistry” thing didn’t appear to be present right away on Date Number One.Maybe like Priscilla you’re done with players, elusive hotties, the ones who come on strong and disappear, cheaters and all-around heartbreakers.
You are sick of being disappointed, hurt, betrayed, furious and depressed.
Now, I have been dating this guy (pre-med, kind of nerdy, logical, strategic type of guy) for two years. He is smart, consistent, predictable and incredibly faithful. He has been very intentional with my parents and with his desire to love and cherish only me. There is no "magic," and I feel I could logically live without him if we broke up.
I love him very much, but we do not have the same "chemistry" that I shared with the first person. I just saw the first guy again this week and was reminded again how strong the chemistry is between us.
I was hoping he would want me back some time later when another guy was interested in me.
When he didn't come rushing after me (he eventually dropped out of college and joined a commune, making him an unmarriable companion for me) I threw my emotions aside and logically moved on to a stable, committed relationship with this new person.
The secret is to give a real chance to a man who meets your top five critical criteria, who is indeed interested in you and attracted to you, if you feel good in his presence.