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Dating japanese men

Finding love in the modern age is a tricky business for us ladies; there’s attractive profiles to create, emoticons to choose and the general deciphering of Tinder captions – ‘I feel how pizza tastes’… Throw in some culture shock, the language barrier and a completely different set of rules and you have something like dating in Japan.

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While women are more likely to want the stability that comes with a relationship, men will often play the field rather than settle down.This gives us a ratio of just under 5-to-1 in favor of men.For Americans, where the gender gap is 2-to-1 for long-term residence, the marriage gap is more than 5-to-1 in favor of men (1,088 to 201 marriages in 2014, and 1,127 to 199 in 2015).You are probably wondering: if men are so simple, where’s the challenge in getting to know them?Well, the real challenge with men comes much later, usually after marriage; I can imagine that is where his being a Japanese man might have some significance. To begin with, when you first meet a man who appeals to you, try to ascertain what kind of person he is and what his interests are.Christa: I actually approached someone on the train recently and he was totally ok with it but yeah it was kind of up to me to make a move.

Chiara: Um, let’s say in another field I had to make the first step.

Foreign women in Japan are not the only ones dealing with players. They’ve probably dealt with flakes and liars who were just looking for a bit of fun. Some men are just not looking for a relationship and will lead you on to get into your pants. More importantly: what kind of guy do you go out with?

If you go on a date with, pardon the generalization, a “typical” Japanese man, it’s more likely he’s just curious about what it would be like to date a foreign woman.

I consider myself a modern Japanese woman, and honestly, I cannot say that you can easily ‘make’ Japanese men do anything they don’t want to do, let alone fall in love.

But if you too are a woman, and you are reading this, I assume the subject has piqued your interest in some way.

Rebecca: I wasn’t so attracted to Japanese men but now after living here for three years I would say I definitely am. Christa: I’ve always been attracted to Japanese men, even when I was young, so I did some research before I came here and I saw that generally they are interested but they’re very shy about approaching women so you may need to approach them.