Dating a guy who has been married twice
If a couple is still finding lots of reasons not to marry after four or more years, then that’s usually because they’re subconsciously picking up on problems or even thinking that they themselves aren’t suitable for marriage, ever.” Makes perfect sense to me.
Long courtships, Huston argues, are rarely long because the partners are exercising due caution.When you are in the infant stages of dating, this may not seem like a big deal to you, but gradually this will become more and more apparent.When you first started dating, he was available at your fingertips, even on Monday morning for a date.When it comes to dating, we all know what a struggle it is to find that perfect partner. You have all the necessary equipments to take you through the dating stage.All the check boxes are ticked, except for one – he is a divorcee.Would you want to know if your future husband was an alcoholic, or has genital herpes, or has fought anxiety, on and off, for 10 years? So if we’ve established that the criteria for telling a secret is the secret’s ability to impact a relationship in the future, the question remains: do you say something? If it’s a health thing, like STD’s, you have to come clean right away.
But if it’s something that is deep in your past, doesn’t impact you today, but is something you would want to know about your partner, I’d hold onto it until you’re sure that the confession would I told my wife about my past anxiety within the first 2 months.
By comparison, just 5% of newlywed men in their first marriage have a spouse who is 10 years younger, and 10% married a woman who is 6-9 years younger.
On the whole, remarriage is on the rise – four in ten new marriages include at least one partner who has been married before, according to a recent Pew Research Center report.
I am divorced after a 15-year marriage and dating someone about 5 months now. This guy knows a lot about me including a 6-year marriage prior to the recent long one. And I think you’ll find that this is a perfect case of different strokes for different folks.
What he doesn’t know is that briefly, as a teenager, I was married for 6 months. My therapist tells me I need not disclose this information, but I kinda feel like I am being dishonest. If I’m going to play philosopher, however, I think we need to parse these old skeletons and come to some conclusion about what it’s fair to hide, and when, if ever, you should confess your past sins.
It may feel right and your emotions may all be in the right places but in the long run you will be disappointed, hurt and in some extreme cases, you will suffer from severe depression.