Christian dating and engagement
Being Single Today Are you a single Christian woman or man confused about what God says about dating, courting, or the process of becoming engaged and married?
The barrage of questions surprised me because I had no reservations about giving her my heart.However, in the second half of our dating years, we did what was said to be the impossible – we went backwards.We found a way to keep our hands off each other and honor God and each other with our bodies.I entered the church that evening with God’s peace inspiring my steps.If you are dating someone seriously, how peaceful do you feel when you think about marrying that person?How much time does it take to determine if he or she is “the one”? I know of people who have gotten married very quickly (like in a matter of days) and are still married decades later—and people who did the same thing and were divorced just as quickly.
Or, a couple may be “in a relationship” for a decade, finally get married, and then split up in the first year.
It really depends on the people involved, and the reasons why they get married when they do. Most people realize that you shouldn’t get married too quickly after meeting someone, and the one long-term study I’ve found on the subject seems to back that up.
There are a couple of reasons why a short dating period can cause problems in marriage: Marriage is really about commitment, so the real question is whether you are willing to commit to this person for the rest of your life, and whether you can trust them when they say they’re willing to do the same. Now, sometimes you can trust them more quickly if other trustworthy people have known the person through close community for a long time, and can vouch for them.
Of course, the support goes both ways, only furthering my point that for Christ’s sake, we do need each other in one capacity or another.
Each individual person has a different set of needs, and desires.
It’s a question that comes up occasionally within a singles ministry.