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I’ve had multiple conversations and have read many blogs and articles about online dating. Online dating gives the users the chance to put their best foot forward and keep the ugly in the background. Online dating has the potential to be used because of a lack of trust in God.I’ve decided to boil all of that information down into this one teeny tiny blog post. Going online requires you to fork over a bunch of personal information (that’s how they make the matches). It can be difficult to know the true beliefs, convictions, and character of the guys you meet. A lack of trust that God is the Creator and hold the hearts of Kings in His hands. God is working in your life and giving you opportunities to grow and become more like Jesus. God has tons of work (the harvest is plentiful but the workers are few) and singles are a great set of people to focus on that Kingdom work.
Eric and Jennys dating relationship had started out innocently? Soon afterward they broke up, discouraged and hurt. But both came to him separately and expressed emotional trauma and guilt over past memories. Some of us had made the same mistake or watched it happen in the lives of our friends. We wanted the pastor to tell us what we were supposed to do instead.Unless we are rebelling against God, we can be sure that He is not punishing us through our singleness and that He is very likely bringing the right man or woman our way…eventually!God uses our choices, other people, and sometimes even modern technology, to bring about marriages.As my friend Lindsey, married and in her thirties, recently remarked, “I’m sure glad I wasn’t much of a Christian when I started dating my husband!” Whether over coffee in my kitchen or on the hallowed ground of women’s small groups, I hear these murmurs constantly.There are also great Christian ministries (that I highly respect) who hold very different views.
On one hand there’s Leslie Ludy who is totally against it and on the other hand we have Boundless who is very much in favor of it.
This involves judging a potential guy or girl for the 38 qualities you are looking for in an ideal mate—before even grabbing coffee together. Sometimes the “hanging out” leads to hooking up, sans dating, which is another uber-confusing side effect of the Faux Christian Dating cycle. What if Christians just began to date like normal people—not dating toward immediate marriage and not eschewing dating for the less-desirable “hanging out” no man’s land?
It’s like arranged marriages where no one is making the arrangements, and it doesn’t seem to work very well. Here’s what I think it would require: Stop evaluating whether the guy who’s taken an interest in you is strong and tenderhearted enough to raise your future kids.
“My daughter was interested in this nice Christian boy, but he strung her along for a year and a half.
The next one did too.” Or, “Jeremy acted like they were friends but she told me later that they were hooking up on the side.” With that kind of dismal dating culture at play, let’s consider the options: First, there’s “Duggar Dating.” Duggar dating is the modern-day form of arranged marriages.
I seem to have a knack for picking rusty grocery carts that make clattering noises or ones with squeaky wheels that grate on your nerves like fingernails on a chalkboard. You want to go in a straight line, but the cart wants to swerve to the left and take out the cat food display.