Tips on dating a dutch guy
Even if a supposedly romantic evening is going well it is not unheard of for both parties to share the bill.
Almost everyone said men in their experience paid for first dates, although most of my women friends added that they reached for the wallet and offered to chip in.When he fails to flirt back, don’t immediately assume he is not interested.Unless, the conversation is simply not going anywhere and both of you are getting a migraine from it.It is a pity I cannot write a longer article because I have plenty of stories and views an on this subject.I will only narrate those that immediately come to my mind as I go along.A Dutch guy I met at a barber shop once had this to say on the subject of a Dutch Treat and dating, “ If the date is going well I do not mind paying the entire bill. If it is not going well, I will make sure she pays half. I will not spend my money on a bad date.” What immediately came to my mind was that this man was a cheapskate and clearly lacks a romantic bone in him.
However, I later realized that this is not very strange in the Netherlands.
For instance, whilst in most of the world it’s up to the man to swallow his fear and start up a conversation or ask someone to dance, in Holland the women tend to be a little more forthcoming.
Some find this a little daunting whilst for others it’s a welcome break.
In one study, 72% of men had been on a date where the woman paid, and 76% of women daters footed the bill at least once also (Lottes, 1993). Then I asked my friends, “How long do men generally pay for dates if the relationship continues?
” The responses varied on this question but the most common response was that men paid for dates for about 2-3 months before the bills were more evenly if not equally split.
A shift started to happen in the 1990’s when dating became a little more egalitarian.