Israeli men dating rituals
These appear less concerned with the dangers of inbreeding and more concerned with ensuring that no woman can be related to a man in more than one way; for example, woman cannot be both an aunt and a wife to the same man.A man was permitted to marry his dead wifes sister since he was no longer related to her.
A childless woman could call herself a mother by giving her maid-servant to her husband as a second wife (assuming, of course, the maid-servant did indeed produce a child). While the husband was clearly the boss, each expected love from the other and a wife had the legal right to support.
In the Ashkenazi Orthodox Jewish tradition, the ufruf ceremony takes place on the Shabbat before the wedding.
In Sephardi and Mizrachi traditions, the ufruf is called the Shabbat Chattan, which means the groom's Shabbat.
The Shabbat Chattan typically takes place on the Shabbat after the wedding.
After the Torah reading, the members of the congregation sing songs and to throw soft candies, raisins and nuts at the groom as an expression of the community's wishes for a sweet start for the new life the bride and groom will soon begin together.
There are also those who say this is a reference to the verse in Shir Hashirim, the Song of Songs, "I went down into the garden of nuts to see the fruits of the valley, and to see if the vine had blossomed, to see if the pomegranates were in bloom." In many Ashkenazi Orthodox communities, the bride does not attend the aufruf because of the custom for the bride and groom not to see one another for a week before the wedding.