Rules on dating a musician
But this will get more fucking annoying for you than the girls or the dudes in his band.
In fact, the life of a musician can make relationships hard.My opinion is that most men are doing it totally wrong. Therefore, the one thing that I’m always lacking is time.Almost daily, I see some loser guy acting like a savage in order to get a woman’s attention. But the reality though is that when women meet me, they immediately start thinking I’m a player once they find out I’m an r&b singer. I’m a digital marketing analyst, a singer, songwriter, producer and as of last year, I’ve been documenting all of my music experiences via my blog and as a contributing writer to Digital Music News. Aside from that – I have very ambitious long term career goals, and I’m pretty busy trying to achieve them.If you complain about this, you're massively selfish, FYI. "", presumably, being the relentless torture that inflicts musicians on an epidemic scale. His existential crisis is the Camilla to your Charles and Diana. His neuroticism puts him at the centre of any number of imagined scenarios in which he's letting you down or breaking your heart or HEY WHAT A GREAT IDEA FOR A SONG! He, however, has lived the life less ordinary forever and as such cannot fathom the prospect of being enchained in the corporate routine of work/sleep/death.But whether you’re a male or female in the music industry, there are various complexities that can make romance extremely challenging. • Musicians/Artists get panties (or bras, or boxer shorts) thrown at them.
Before I even get into it, let me properly preface this with some important context. To every non-musician reading this, you’re just an outsider looking in. Here are some of the most common false truths about musicians when it comes to dating, especially for up-and-coming musicians: • Musicians/Artists get TONS of gorgeous women falling for them. Now I’ll be honest, I have my fair share of female supporters, but nothing comes close to an official ‘groupie’.
Nonetheless, you can work to make your relationship better and be the best partner you can be to him or her, though don't forget to expect the same in return.
A few years ago, I had to swear off dating musicians. unless he’s being financially supported by Mommy and Daddy. Twenty-something and thirty-something men who don’t pay their own bills have a warped view of reality. To this day I can still remember an ex-boyfriend’s most ardent groupie: she once showed up at his apartment unannounced while I was over because she was “just in the neighborhood.” He thought she was ridiculous, but he had to be polite to her because she was such a major fan.
• Musicians/Artists regularly get groupies after all their shows. And to every dude dreaming of becoming a rock star just for the chicks, I may have just shattered your hopes and dreams.
Sorry (but not sorry), the truth is you’ll never make it on that motivation alone.
and again and again the same patterns would repeat themselves that led to us breaking up. I perfected the “watchful girlfriend off to the side” stance — not possessively hovering too close, but also making it clear to both him and the other chicks that I was watching. You’ll be expected to go to not just some gigs, but probably their shows. Make no mistake: these are all serious things to consider if you’re dating a successful musician. But if you’re also a night owl, then this relationship could work out great. We put our souls into what we do, so we can’t help but take it very, very personally if people don’t like it — even if we’ve become successful doing it professionally. If you go to bed with a writer, expect to wake up with shit written about you.