So, instead of fighting over the newest man meat on Grindr, I recommend these practical tips for gay men:1. Plus, being honest with yourself is a great launching pad for honesty in your relationship. Do you always say: "Gay dating is such a chore," or, "Gay men just want sex," or "Every gay guy I meet only wants to talk about themselves? "For example, "Gay dating is such a chore." So What? "If it's not fun, then I might as well just stay home." So what? or at least that's what the replay of the tape your listening to is saying. Finally, let the fun-loving gay dater in you out to play. Just because "Bryce" dates like a mad man doesn't mean he's more datable than you. Conversely, making sex the secondary acquisition can also be a home run. After all, if he thinks you're afraid, you probably are, and your sweaty armpit stains will rat you out!
Three: Do not "friend" your date on Facebook before or after the initial meeting.No matter your gender or sexual orientation, dating can seem like a minefield.Sometimes we meet the wrong people, choose a bad venue or fall head over heels with someone who just wants to be friends. Let it go and direct your energy toward a more promising candidate. We've probably all been on both sides of this issue. Have enough respect for each other to follow through and communicate where things stand. If you sense your attraction to him is not really reciprocated, don't try to force the issue. Unreturned phone calls and lack of follow through are a real drag.If you're not a good match (and dates are like new restaurants; about one in eight survive), you're both going to share that awkward moment of "Do I un-friend him or keep reading about his 'Why do I always meet losers? Four: Even though gay men love to label everyone, they despise being labeled.
So whether he's a Bear, Twink, Twunk, Cub, Daddy, Dilf, Otter, Chub, Gym Rat, Gym Bunny, or any of the other zillion names we give one another, only address him in generic terms, like handsome, sexy, hung.
Allow yourself time to balance physical attraction with other important elements like basic communication and similar outlooks and interests. You can't take a relationship faster than the pace at which BOTH guys are comfortable.
And if you're the one who's less interested, let the other guy know as quickly and tactfully as possible.
We whinge that we can’t find the right man, or never get a second date, but the usual reason is we’re not looking hard enough in the first place.
Whether we’re into bears, jocks or geeks, sometimes our narrow search criteria holds us back.
If you are a gay who lives in a small town, then it is hard to find an ideal partner.