Dating muslim man problems
The Muslim dating community is not immune to sleazebags. If the guy starts initiating sext-like messages (10pm text — “I bet you’ve got a great imagination ;) Maybe you could help mine…”) you better believe I won’t progress things with this individual.
You have two choices: tell your parents that you are a non-Muslim and don’t have to marry a Muslim (or marry at all) or lie to your future Muslim partner and enter into a relationship built on deceit where your non-religious views will have to be kept private. (WOMENSENEWS)– Munira Ezzeldine, a marriage counselor in Irvine, Calif., who is one of the instructors of a premarital course, tells me that Islam in America is at a “kind of crossroads now.” She explains, “We don’t have something called dating in the Western context, you know with pre-marital sex and all the stuff that comes with it.” But young Muslims are also not interested in having arranged marriages as their parents and grandparents did.“They actually want to get to know the person for a certain amount of time, but also within the boundaries.” If a young Muslim is aiming for this kind of compromise, there are other resources too.11 Things I Learned from Dating 20 Muslim Men I certainly don’t recommend meeting 20 men in order to find the One and don’t believe it’s necessary at all (see point #9 below), but through well-intentioned advice from friends and family that I initially took, I decided to put myself out there this past year or so and this is what I learned:1. You don’t ever have to change yourself for someone else to like you.You want someone to connect with the real you, so that’s who you should be.He should be willing to wait all the way until marriage if that’s what you want him to do.
Sexting and early physical advances are huge red flags that show he isn’t serious at all. There’s no stigma in going online and letting your friends/family know you’re looking. Not all of us will meet our future spouse at a coffee shop by chance or at a party or through work/school.
Dating is hard in the best of circumstances but if you are an ex-Muslim, it’s downright depressing.
A lot of us try and stay in the closet because of the taboo for as long as possible.
Ezzeldine, who wrote a short book called “Before the Wedding: Questions for Muslims to Ask Before Getting Married,” tries to offer her coreligionists a way of getting to know each other without violating the standards of the faith.
Ezzeldine wants Muslims to have “the conversations to get to know somebody for marriage in a way” that is more than superficial.
Be authentic and present and know your own worth that can’t be shattered by anyone else’s opinion of you.2.